Terry’s Take… March Week Two
We all struggle to create the best Christian environment in our home. We all want to raise our children, care for our spouse and treat our grandchildren in a God-pleasing way, don’t we?
So what does a “Christian Home” look like?
One thing’s certain: it’s not a home governed by dead, restrictive “religious” rules. Instead, it’s a place where family members live their lives under the with the presence of the Son of God – where people speak and act and relate to one another in the awareness that Jesus himself is intimately concerned about us. Where it can be said that “Christ is the Head of this house, the Unseen Guest at every meal, the Silent Listener to every conversation.”
How does this “Christ-centeredness” play itself out in the practical details of everyday life? To a certain extent it expresses itself differently from situation to situation. Every Christian family, like every Christian individual, is a poem (Greek poiema, “workmanship”) written by God (Ephesians 2:10), and every poem is unique. But there are some common features we can expect to find in every genuinely Christ-centered home.
Joy is characteristic of a truly Christian home.
Having said this, it’s important to understand that joy and happiness are not necessarily the same thing. Happiness is a result of what happens to us. Joy has deeper roots. Every marriage and every family will experience trials and hardships of various kinds, but there is no circumstance that can rob us of our joy if we know that the key to our present welfare and future destiny lies in Christ alone.
A Christian home is orderly.
As the apostle Paul says, “God is not the author of confusion but of peace” (1 Corinthians 14:33). The tyranny of the world is required to stay outside. The members of the household regularly review everything that’s allowed in. Should it stay? Does it build up the family? Does it encourage people to value one another over things?
A Christ-centered home should be marked by grace.
It should be a safe place to mess up. Family members need grace and understanding applied to the wounds of their hearts. They need to remember that love, not perfection, is the goal. There’s enough hostility, judgment, sarcasm, and antagonism out in the world. Home should be a retreat where the hurting can find comfort, rest and healing.
A Christ-centered home is a place where the spiritual disciplines are practised.
It provides an environment where every member of the family learns how to live by studying the Scriptures, praying, meditating on God’s Word, and spending time alone in the presence of the Lord.
Lastly, a Christian home is based on God’s purposes for every member of the household.
It’s a place where the family’s goals are founded upon His values and where the corporate vision of the future is consistent with His plan. Developing a family “Mission Statement” can be a starting place to craft a genuinely Christ-centered home. The guiding principles embodied in this document should be flexible but consistent. From beginning to end, they should reflect your eternal focus and express your deep hope of seeing Jesus face to face one day.
Today’s resource: A Prayer for Christian Families
“Dear God, we thank you for the love and joy that our family brings to our lives.
Please bless us with patience, kindness and understanding as we navigate the challenges of life together.
We pray for your continued presence in our home and for the strength to follow your will. Amen.”